Newsletter - March 2020 - Covid19 Resources

A Letter From Our Founder

 

I hope everyone is staying healthy and are following the WHO guidelines. We are facing an unprecedented time with COVID-19. There is no known treatment for this severe virus and we all wait anxiously for the virus to cease. Our medical healthcare team is working tirelessly to save lives with a shortage of supplies and hospital beds.  We are witnessing first hand staggering numbers of positive cases and death toll. As I write this, my prayers and thoughts are with anyone affected or knows someone who has the virus.

According to the World Health Organization, there are a few things we can do to prevent infection and slow the spread: 

👉  Wash your hands regularly for 20 seconds with soap and water, or clean them with alcohol-based hand rub.

👉  Avoid touching your face.

👉  Cover your mouth and nose  with your arm or tissue (not your hand) when coughing or sneezing.

👉  Stay home if you feel unwell.

👉  Practice physical distancing by avoiding unnecessary travel and staying away from large groups of people.

Here at Different & Able, we wanted to provide you with resources that may be helpful during this difficult time. Please see our extensive list below.

Stay safe!

Alexandra Nicklas

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NYC Coronavirus Information

 

For up to date on the coronavirus, call the number or visit the website listed below. These resources are from New York City.  

Phone: 311

Hotline: 888-364-3065

Website: NYC COVID-19 Information 

 

·      Relief

For help paying your rent and bills due to coronavirus layoffs, call the hotline below for assistance. 

Hotline: 866-211-9966

 

·   Unemployment

If you have been fired or laid off, apply for unemployment. The two week waiting period has been waived for New York City.

Website: New York Unemployment Assistance

 

·      SNAP Benefits 

The Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) is a federal program that helps low-income families have access to fresh produce and food. They provide a special card that can be used to buy groceries.

Website: Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) 

 

·    Emergency Cash Assistance

If you have been laid off or fired due to the coronavirus, apply for emergency cash assistance that can be used to pay bills and rent.

Website: Emergency Cash Assistance

 

·      Coping

The Center for Disease Control and Prevention has provided information on how to manage stress and anxiety that are caused from the coronavirus epidemic. These resources include information for individuals, parents, first responders, and people who have been released from quarantine.  

Website: NYC Stress Coping Skills for COVID-19

Website: CDC Manage Anxiety & Stress  

 

·    Assistive Technology

If your child needs an assistive technology device, call the number or visit the website listed below.

Website: https://www.includenyc.org/content/includenycs-response-to-covid-19

 

Care

 

·    Rights Protection

If you are disabled or have been diagnosed with a mental illness and feel your rights are being violated, reach out to your state’s Protection and Advocacy Agency. They will provide you the support and assistance that you deserve.

Website: List of Protection and Advocacy Agencies

 

·      Helping Hands for the Disabled of NYC

The action line provides service from allowing users to call with questions about disability, or if they just wish to speak to someone.  Everything is confidential. Helping Hands for the Disabled provides help with everyday obstacles that people may face such as shopping, running errands, eating and other daily life activities. 

Phone: 718-606-9712

Website: www.hhdnyc.org

Document: A letter from a doctor confirming disability

 

·    Health Home

The Health Home service is a group of health care workers who help individuals ensure they get the care they need and deserve. Individuals who are approved will have a care manager who will map out the care and services that are needed to ensure optimal health. Home Health provides care coordination, transportation, help to obtain food, and help with many other needs.

Eligibility; Enrolled in Medicaid AND must have: two or more chronic conditions OR one single qualifying condition OR Serious Mental Illness (SMI) OR Serious Emotional Disturbance (SED) OR Complex Trauma. 

Website: Health Home Website 

 

·     INCLUDEnyc

INCLUDEnyc has been helping young people (Birth to 26 years) with disabilities and their families since 1983. They help young people with getting access to services, health care, and support for the family.

Phone: 212-677-4650

Text: 646-693-3175

Hotline: 212-677-4660- Provides “1 to 1 help” Monday to Thursday 9AM-3PM

Website: INCLUDEnyc

 

·   ADAPT Community Network

Provides direct services and advocacy to children and adults with cerebral palsy and related disabilities. Services include: early intervention, adult residential and day programs, vocational and supported employment programs, recreational programs for children and adolescents as well as comprehensive health care services. 

Phone: 877-827-2666

 

·      AHRC New York City  

This agency provides a wide-range of services for the ID/DD population, and this is the central intake to access these services. Services include: Counseling services, psychological and psychosocial testing, speech, physical and occupational therapy evaluations, educational advocacy, home health care, case management, adult day and vocational services, camps, respite, residential services, and sibling support. Also assist with: family reimbursement and legal services (guardianship, future planning).

Phone: 212-780-4491

 

·   Insurance for Children

Insure Kids Now is an organization that helps families get their children health services that include health, vision, dental, and other medical treatments and devices as needed.

Website: https://www.insurekidsnow.gov/

 

·      Center for Human Development and Family Services 

The Center for Human Development and Family Services (CHDFS) provides multiple resources for families who have children with physical or mental disabilities. They can provide speech/language therapy, physical therapy, occupational therapy, vision therapy, sensory integration therapy, feeding, family training, respite work, and many more if eligible. They also provide care management, wellness services and home & community-based services.

Website: CHDFS Programs  

 

Grocery Shopping

 

·      Target

Target announced that it would reserve the first hour of shopping each Wednesday at stores nationwide for "vulnerable guests," including the elderly and those with underlying health conditions. 

Website: Target Shopping for the Elderly & At Risk Populations  

 

·   Walmart

Walmart is adding an hour long "senior shopping event" every Tuesday for customers aged 60 and older from March 24 to April 28. This would start one hour before the store opens to the public and includes its pharmacies and vision centers.

Website: Walmart Early Shopping Hours  

 

·      Fairway Market 

Fairway Market is reserving 8AM to 9AM, from Monday to Friday, for shoppers aged 65 and older and people with "increased susceptibility to serious illness". 

 

·   Stop & Shop

Stop & Shop will open its doors from 6AM to 7:30 AM for customers aged 60 and older as well as people who are at-risk. Though they won’t require I.D. for entry during these hours, the company said in a statement it will "reserve the right to ask customers to leave if they are not a member of this age group.

 

·      Whole Foods

Whole Foods Market stores in the U.S. and Canada will service customers 60 years of age and older one hour before opening to the public.

 

·     Dollar Tree

Dollar General is strongly encouraging that the first hour of operations each day be dedicated solely for the shopping needs of senior customers.

 

Internet

 

·      Spectrum Broadband & WiFi

Charter will offer free Spectrum broadband and Wi-Fi access for 60 days to households with K-12 and/or college students who do not already have a Spectrum broadband subscription and at any service level up to 100 Mbps. 

Phone: 1-844-488-8395

Website: Charter Communications- Free Spectrum Broadband & WiFi

 

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·      Helping Hands for the Disabled of NYC 

The food pantry provides food to people with disabilities age 18 and over.  People must come in to pick up their food. The food pantry also makes deliveries on the 3rd Saturday of each month, and it is only for people who are blind or in a wheelchair. There is $20 Membership fee for deliveries, which may be waived if eligible.  

Phone: 718-606-9712

Website: www.hhdnyc.org

 

·   Food Bank for NYC

The Food Bank for NYC is operating and taking precautions from the CDC. If you need food, go on the website to find the closet pantry near you. 

Website: Food Bank NYC 

 

·      Food and Hunger Hotline

Provides emergency referrals to soup kitchens and food pantries throughout the city. This automated hotline will provide the hours of operation and directions to the emergency feeding program closest to the client.

Hotline:: 866-888-8777

 

·      City Meals

To qualify for home-delivered meals, a person must be at least 60 years old. In addition, the individual must have a chronic physical or mental disability preventing him or her from shopping for food or preparing meals for himself or herself.

Website: Find out if you’re eligible to Get Meals

 

·   Feeding America

Feeding America ensures that individuals and families get food they need during these stressful times. Feeding America is working with school districts and local government agencies to ensure that the 22 million children who rely on school meals have access to food outside of the classroom. They are building an inventory of emergency food boxes to distribute to food banks across the country as the need for food assistance increases.

Website: Find Your Local Food Bank

Website: COVID-19 Response  

 

Education 

 

·      Comic about the Coronavirus for Children 

This is a printable comic that can be used to help children learn about the coronavirus. 

Coronavirus Educational Comic  

 

·    Beeline Reader

 BeeLine Reader is an online tool that improves the reading ability of students of all ages and skill levels. By displaying text using color gradients that wrap from the end of one line to the beginning of the next, BeeLine facilitates visual tracking and enables the reader to focus on other aspects of reading, such as decoding and comprehension. Free access to the BeeLine Reader Browser Plugin for Chrome through September 2020. Email education@BeeLineReader.com for a free account!

Website: https://www.beelinereader.com/education

 

·      Little Twisters Yoga Activities for Children with Autism 

For kids ages 2 and up, this resource provides tips on how to engage kids through yoga. Fun printable lessons like Space Shape Yoga and Kids Yoga Cards are free for all during the COVID-19 school closure and quarantine.

Website: https://littletwistersyoga.com/

 

·   Activities for Children with Autism 

This is a website that has 30 different activities that can be calming and fun for children with Autism. Many are engaging and are bound to keep your child busy while the schools are closed.

Website: https://www.merakilane.com/indoor-activities-for-kids-with-autism/

 

Crisis Intervention

  

·   NYC Well

NYC Well is New York City’s free, confidential support, crisis intervention, and information and referral service for anyone who seeks help for mental health and/or substance misuse concerns, available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. NYC Well is staffed by trained professionals who can help you find the services that best meet your needs.

Phone: 1-888-692-9355

Text: “Well” to 65173

Website:  Chat with NYC Well

 

·       Crisis Text Line  

Counselors are available 24/7 and are there to support and talk to individuals who are stressed, overwhelmed and feeling alone. This service is free for everybody to use.

Text: CONNECT to 741741 

 

·   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals.

Phone: 1-800-273-8255

Website: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/

 

Newsletter - January 2020

Letter From Our Founder

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Welcome! 

 

We are excited to share our first newsletter of the year. Last year was a great year for us with many big things that happened. We officially launched, Mandy Harvey inspired us with her words and song, we raised money to help others and continue to grow. 

This year will be bigger and better yet. We have many exciting things happening we can't wait to share with you. But until then, we will continue to inspire, provide resources, support and knowledge to all of you.

This month we are looking deeper into the Americans with Disability Act (ADA). Before disability legislation was passed, life for people with disabilities was challenging. People had to navigate society without any physical, architectural, employment and transportation accommodations. There was no accessibility to restrooms, housing and transportation. Difficulties with note-taking in schools and employment settings affected achieving. In our featured article, Marilyn Saviola and Marca Briston, two influential advocates for disability legislation, are discussed in leading the movement for the passing of the American with Disabilities Act on July 26th, 1990 by President H.W. Bush.

 

Article of the Month

Before The Passage of the ADA

Rose Lynn Sherr, Ph.D.

 

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Reading the New York Times’ obituary of Marilyn Saviola recently (December 1, 2019) made me remember what life was like before the passage of the ADA, the Americans with Disabilities Act, in 1990. Ms. Saviola was one of the leaders of the movement in New York that lobbied and marched for the passage of the passage of legislation that would remove physical, architectural, employment and transportation barriers that prevented those with physical, cognitive, sensory and neurological differences from full participation in society.


Tamara Dembo, Ph.D., a psychologist, wrote about such barriers as early as 1973.* She noted at that time that

…restrictions and handicaps are not only inherent in the loss or lack of

properties of the person, but are in large part due to the feelings and behaviors

of other people and the rules and regulations of the outside world, the 

environment surrounding the handicapped person.

The world in which handicapped people live is constructed by nonhandicapped

people for non-handicapped people, with little consideration of the needs of the

handicapped. (p. 720)


Ms. Saviola incurred polio when she was 10 years old, in 1955, the same year that the Salk vaccine was introduced. What happened to her afterwards illustrates the points made by Dembo and was typical of life before ADA. After spending time in an iron lung, she required a respirator to breathe and was sent from the acute care hospital to a long-term care hospital for people with chronic disabilities. When she returned to live with her parents; they lived in a two-story house and she could not negotiate the stairs. When she became too heavy for her parents to carry up or down, she was so socially isolated that she decided to return to the long-term care hospital where she had a peer group and would have greater mobility. She finished high school at the hospital which had a tutoring program for teaching the patients, and she was accepted to Long Island University. At first, she took classes remotely by speaker phone and then took classes at the LIU Brooklyn campus and obtained a BA and then a Masters in Vocational Rehabilitation at New York University. Since there were no accessibility laws, she could not use the library or restrooms at her universities because of physical barriers and could not use public transportation. During that time, she and many others realized that no changes would occur in accessibility of transportation, buildings, bathrooms, offices , jobs etc. unless people organized, protested and contacted lawmakers.

 

Marca Briston, a nurse in Chicago who became paraplegic at the age of 23, eventually came to the same conclusion as Ms. Saviola. While attending a conference in Berkeley, California she was amazed at the degree to which that city had made itself so accessible to those with physical differences. The city had curb cuts, accessible buildings and bathrooms and the city buses had wheelchair lifts! She later wrote, “No longer did I see curbs or stairs or inaccessible buses and bathrooms as a problem around which I needed to navigate. Rather, I saw them as examples of societal discrimination and I felt a responsibility to get involved to help people with disabilities, in Illinois and beyond.” She, like Ms. Saviola and many others across the country became activists. She lobbied senators and congressmen, others picketed, jumped on bus steps from their wheelchair and stopped the municipal buses from moving, lectured and publicized their situation and, as Ms. Briston said: “This ragtag army of people who couldn’t see, hear, walk and talk did what everyone said couldn’t be done. “We passed the most comprehensive civil rights law since the passage of the 1964 Civil Rights Act.”

 

The ”ragtag army” was comprised of people with various differences who became aware that the prejudices and obstacles that they had endured were modifiable if required by law. Those who had visual limitations should not have to deal with not knowing what floor an elevator was at or not being able to see a voting ballot, people with cognitive or sensory limitations should have a notetaker when taking a college course, a disability should not preclude going to college or getting a good job or living in buildings that had no architectural barriers. Architectural , academic and vocational modifications would open the doors for those who had been kept out by ignorance and discrimination. They challenged centuries of beliefs about those with differences and after much lobbying, education and protests, they won when President George H.W. Bush signed into law the American with Disabilities Act, on July 26, 1990.

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*Dembo, T., Diller, L., Gordon, W., Leviton, G., & Sherr, RL. A view of rehabilitation psychology.  The American Psychologist, August 1993, pp. 719-721.

 

D & A Featured Story

How the ADA Helped Me 

My name is Jane and I was born in Chicago. Soon after my birth, doctors realized I had cerebral palsy.   My CP resulted in physical and cognitive deficits. I have a right arm weakness which prohibits me from doing two-handed tasks. My attention deficits, slower processing speed, and problem-solving skills affect my academic and vocational  performance if accommodations are not granted. 

The Americans With Disabilities Act (ADA) played a crucial role in my education. Because of the ADA, I was able to graduate from high school, college, and graduate school. Having my deficits did not make excelling easy. I had to work twice as hard as the typical student without a learning disability and I had to be pretty resourceful to get around my one-handedness in school and graduate training.  
        

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Newsletter - December 3rd, 2019 - Inaugural Issue of our Newsletter

 

Welcome! 

 

We are proud to launch our first official newsletter! It has been an exciting year. In June, we launched as a 501c3 not-for-profit organization. It was a wonderful event of 100 guests, held at The Empire Rooftop in NYC with a special performance by Mandy Harvey. With your help, we were able to raise $17,426! Since launching, we have been working hard to refine the mission, vision and goals of the organization while simultaneously continuing to gather personal stories and resources.

We also are making changes on our website to make it more user friendly, engaging and interactive.
 
Our goal is to have one newsletter monthly that focuses on a particular disability or medical condition that is being recognized for that month. November was epilepsy awareness month and to help raise awareness  we are showcasing a personal story about accepting life with epilepsy. We have also included a short infographic below that shows you what you can do if someone suffers a seizure in front of you.

For those that have been with us since the beginning, thank you for supporting our endeavors! For those that are new, welcome to the D&A family.

A percentage of donations made to D&A gets disbursed to different medical health organizations and charities. Our goal is to provide funds to help with research as well as finding treatments and possibly a cure for the variety of disorders we support. This year we have chosen to donate to Finding a Cure for Epilepsy & Seizures' (FACES)  College Scholarship Program that provides support to college students affected by epilepsy and seizure disorders.

 

December 3 is International Day of Disabled Persons

As an organization that supports those with differences, today is an important day.  In 1992  the United Nations called for an international day of celebration for people living with disabilities  and to promote the well-being and welfare of people living with disabilities. This is held on December 3 every year.
 

Two years prior to this, in 1990,  the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA) was created. This is arguably the most important legislation in support of people with disabilities signed by the American Government. 

 

Americans with Disability Act (ADA)

D&A Resource

Our very own Dr. Sherr has written this article on Getting What You Need Out of the Americans with Disability Act.

Read More

 

For More Information

To be protected by the ADA, one must have a disability, which is defined by the ADA as a physical or mental impairment that substantially limits one or more major life activities, a person who has a history or record of such an impairment, or a person who is perceived by others as having such an impairment. The ADA does not specifically name all of the impairments that are covered.

Read More

 

Current Events & Updates

#GIVINGTUESDAY

December 3 is #GivingTuesday!  

#GivingTuesday is a global generosity movement  that inspires hundreds of millions of people to give, collaborate, and celebrate generosity to trans-form communities and the world on December 3, 2019 and every day.

This year Different & Able has joined the cause! With the end of the year approaching quickly, we encourage you to share your generosity with us so we can spread the generosity further! We are still $25,000 away from this year's goal of $45,000.

 

Shopping for a Cause

On November 4th, Diane B Shoes on the Upper East Side hosted a fundraising event for D&A where 10% of all sales were donated by owner Craig Blattberg.

It was a fun shopping for a cause event where several D&A supporters purchased gorgeous italian made shoes designed by Craig!

D&A would like to thank Craig and everyone who came out to shop and support us. Together with Diane B Shoes and individual donations, $1600 was raised!

 

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Goals For Years End

A percentage of donations made to D&A gets disbursed to different medical health organizations and charities that have a common goal with us. Our goal is to provide funds to help with research as well as finding treatments and possibly a cure for a variety of disorders.

We have raised $20,000 so far this year and are close to achieving our year end goal of $45,000. Please keep us in mind when making your year end contributions!

 

November was Epilepsy Awareness Month

November was epilepsy awareness month. In an effort to support the epilepsy community, D&A will be disbursing funds to one of the many programs offered by the organization FACES (Finding a Cure for Epilepsy and Seizures). FACES goal is to “improve the quality of life for all those affected by epilepsy and seizures”.​ ​FACES provides funds raised to aid with research to improve epilepsy care, new therapies, and provides a supportive community for children, families and caregivers who are affected by epilepsy.

For more information on the College Scholarship Program D&A is supporting, please click here.

 

D&A Featured Story

Epilepsy Is A Part Of Me

As a child, I was told that I was prone to seizures, but I never thought I would experience them as part of my day to day life.  Everything changed, however, the first day of orientation during my freshman year at Wheaton College. 

 I spent the day like everyone else - moving into my dorm room, unpacking, saying goodbye to my mom and saying hello to the next chapter of my college life.  

And then it happened.  I was out with some new friends, eating pizza, when a piece got stuck in my throat.  Seconds later, my right arm lost sensation.  I started to lose consciousness.  I screamed for help.  I thought I was dying. 

Read more

 

What to do if someone has a seizure in front of you

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Hosting Your Own Party: Ali Stroker's Advice for Success

Since the age of two, when I incurred a spinal cord injury, I have used a wheelchair. One of the most complex parts of living with a disability is handling the way the rest of the world receives you.  I am a super observant person and feel like often I am met with people being unsure of how to move, communicate, or simply coexist with me.  This has led me to a concept that I’ve integrated into my life called, “Hosting Your Own Party.” What I mean by this is that you have the opportunity to either lead or to host situations which might be totally awkward, and turn them into light and controlled moments. How do you do that? First, you must remember that you know yourself and your disability better than anyone! So, below are the steps on how to Host Your Own Party:

1. Look the Person in the Eye and Greet Them:  People will often rush to one of two things: help or get out of the way.  I think reminding others that there’s no rush and that everything is under control is helpful.  We’re all human beings and no one’s going to bite… yet!

2. Be Clear and Precise: Whether you need help or assistance with something, or do not want help (for example getting in and out of an Uber), I’ve found that clear communication has been my best friend.  For example: I say, “I do not need help getting in the car.  I just need help with my wheelchair.”  Now, a lot of people don’t hear you or believe you, and rush to help you regardless.  This is your moment to stop and remind them that you’re the host, this is your party, and they’re not going to grab the reins on this one!

3. Be a Coach: I was lucky and grew up with a coach for a Dad. I’ve found a lot of success in offering positive reinforcement when dealing with someone who seems nervous around me.  For example - back to getting in and out of an Uber – I’ll tell the driver, when they’ve helped me in the way that I’ve asked, “That’s great. Thank you so much!”  And if they happen to get grabby, and try to help in ways that I haven’t asked for, I’ll tell them simply and clearly, “No, don’t do that. Thank you.”

4. Give Yourself Credit: By taking hold of these situations in your life, you give yourself the confidence to know, “You got this.” It takes practice, and you need to do the reps.  This “hosting your party” thing doesn’t just happen overnight, but over time, being disabled can become really powerful. It can make you realize that you can do anything as long as you’re doing it in your own way.  Give yourself a pat on the back.  You’ve accomplished a task that required another person coming into your party and you’re the one who got them there!

5. It’s Not All About You: One of the secrets of living life with a disability is to give others the opportunity to feel helpful.  Remember that kid in the first grade who was just dying to help the teacher? We all have that little kid inside of us and you’ve given someone that opportunity to reconnect with them.

6. Confidence is Key: Okay, I consider myself a pretty confident person.  I’ve been in a chair since I was two years old and have worked so hard to love and trust myself over the past twenty-eight years. However, there are days when I have to fake it. I choose to fake it because I find that even canned confidence feels better than none at all.

7. Costumes and Treats are Helpful: I respond REALLY well to rewards, always have. It was one of the ways I was taught to push my wheelchair as a four year old: “Ali, if you push to the end of the block, you can have anything in my purse!” my babysitter would say.  When I’ve had a tough day or a tough moment where all these tips that I’ve given haven’t worked, I go to the coffee shop and I get myself a treat. Maybe a brownie….  Even if I didn’t do great, I know I tried my best. “Costumes” in this context means that I like to wear clothes and accessories that make me feel FIERCE.  I need to feel like superwoman sometimes after pushing fifteen blocks, and looking down and seeing my favorite Doc Martens on my feet gives me that boost.

Everyone with a disability has their own style. It’s taken me years to find mine. These are tips that have helped me, and if one of them can give you a hand, I’ll be thrilled, because you deserve it!  Go out and “Host your party” to the fullest, in your own way. You’re kicking butt!!

Love and respect,

Your party planner Ali

Flying Solo

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Digby Webster and Tracie Sammut have made waves in the art and TV world – but successes aside, both face an uncertain future.

Digby Webster, a widely exhibited visual artist, was born with a genetic disorder known as Down Syndrome. Tracie Sammut, an actress who has been featured in classic Australian TV shows such as Home & Away and GP, and received a prestigious Logie Award for Special Achievement in 1993, shares this disability.

Digby, 30, and Tracie, 39, still live at home in the care of their families, who are anxiously watching as they take their first tentative steps towards independence.

Flying Solo follows Digby, Tracie and their friend Tom, 36, over the course of four years as they pursue their new lives, juggling their passions with new responsibilities.

Digby tackles fundamental skills such as money management and cooking, even undertaking a new job as he prepares for his newest exhibition. Meanwhile Tracie decides to take Tom under her wing and train him as an actor. But for Tom – now living on his own – pursuing his dreams of professional acting proves an uphill battle as he finds himself struggling with time-management, household chores and depression.

The trio's journey is chronicled in Flying Solo, a feature documentary directed by Australian-American filmmaker Ehsan Knopf, which premiered online on March 21, 2018, World Down Syndrome Day.

The film, made in close collaboration with its subjects, captures their hopes and the hurdles they – like many people with intellectual disabilities – hit along the way. It features frank discussions about disability by the subjects and their friends and families, as well as inspirational scenes of mentorship and friendship.

A social impact documentary, Flying Solo pulls back the curtain on the unexpected strengths of disability, revealing the unique contributions people with conditions like Down Syndrome can make to society. It also aims to inspire change around a chronic lack of access to supported accommodation, which maximizes independence for people with disabilities.

“People with disabilities need to be heard,” Digby Webster said. “I hope the film will show people a different kind of world and also help to create a more open and inclusive community.”

Flying Solo, which first began as a student short film in 2013, was inspired by the filmmaker’s discovery, as an adult, that he himself had a disability. Filmmaker Ehsan was 26 when he got the life-changing diagnosis of Asperger’s Syndrome, a form of autism. A year later, a friend showed him Digby’s artwork, prompting him to get in touch with the artist and make a film about his journey.

After meeting Tom and Tracie, Ehsan expanded the scope of the documentary to include their stories as well, encouraging Tracie and Tom to work together. The result was a series of acting workshops featured throughout the film.

Flying Solo can be watched online on Vimeo On Demand.

Rough Around The Edges

I have what’s called a facial difference or deformity. I was born with it, kind of. I’m not sure of the full story behind what happened to me, but I do know I spent the first six months of my life hospitalized as a result of something called a hemangioma. A hemangioma is a benign tumorous growth of blood vessels on the skin. My hemangioma went away but left a significant amount of scar tissue on one side of my face; it also blinded me in one eye and resulted in me having to wear a tracheostomy up until I was about three years old. Fun stuff! Every summer up until I was eleven years old, I’d have reconstructive surgery to correct the scars. I was very fortunate because in spite of my visible difference, my parents raised me the same way as my older sister. I went to regular school, we went on family vacations, and I got in trouble when I was bad. Just kidding, I was never bad! My mom and dad always encouraged me to be whoever I wanted and accepted me for who I am.  My parents also made an effort to protect me from a world that was not always so kind and when they no longer could, we came up with a short speech I could give children who asked the inevitable questions about what ‘happened’ to me; I’d tell them I was born with something that left scars on my face but the doctors are trying to fix it. I still use parts of this speech when people inquire about whether or not I was in a car accident or fire.

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Image Description: Dyana and her sister at Christmas 1994. Her sister is standing behind her. Dyana is eating a cookie and her face is messy from the cookie.

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If you’ve seen the film Wonder or read the book, you know that the main character, Auggie, a little boy who is born with Treacher Collins syndrome, is homeschooled until 5th grade; I obviously was not. Starting school is confusing for everyone, but starting school when you don’t resemble the rest of your classmates is even more confusing. I attended a private school in New York City and although I was never outwardly made fun of by my peers for the way I looked, I had a few classmates that made sure I knew they thought I was inferior to them. In my opinion, it was a projection of their own ignorance and lack of empathy. I often felt alone and excluded but I never connected the dots, and even though I dealt with kids (mostly boys) on the playground or at day camp who called me names or ran away from me in fear, I never really thought about the fact that other kids didn't have surgeries every summer or had seen more doctors since birth than their age number. When I was in 6th grade, I became more aware that I was different looking from other girls in my grade and through a series of events over the next couple years, I got a taste of what that would mean for me for the rest of my life. It means that I will most likely always put people off initially and that no matter where I go or what I do—nothing changes who I am. Growing up, there are were a lot of things I never did because I was afraid of how I’d been received by kids I didn’t know, something I deeply regret because I think knowing the world was bigger than my school would’ve been extremely helpful to me back then. When I first got social media, I never uploaded pictures of my face. It’s almost laughable now because if you could see my Instagram you would see that I post tons of pictures of myself. It’s taken a long time for me to feel comfortable with my appearance.  Self-love is hard and even though I'm much more confident now, there are still things I don’t do because I’m afraid of how I’ll be received.

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Image Description: Dyana at age 12, in a school photo. She is wearing a blue turtleneck and has braces on her teeth.

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The truth is I’ll never be normal and sometimes I wonder whether certain things just aren’t in the cards for people who look like me. My difference or deformity will always be a thing that requires an explanation. Most recently, I had a woman who was waxing my eyebrows ask me if it was okay to wax around my mouth because of my ‘burns’. Beauty is a privilege. It’s easier to be brave when you’re beautiful or even just normal-looking. It doesn’t mean your life is easy or perfect, but the fact is, we live in a society where physical appearance is regarded as a measure of worth and is rewarded as a badge of honor. When you’re constantly being reminded that your physical appearance is problematic, it’s going to inform your behavior, your feelings, your relationships, and everything else.

I'm not asking you to feel bad for me.  My difference doesn’t stop me from having a great life full of friends and family who love me. It doesn’t stop me from having amazing co-workers and casting people to be on cool reality TV shows. It doesn’t stop me from being a huge wrestling fan or loving the Muppets. Though I’m currently single, I’ve been in relationships before. I know that my facial difference will always be an eventual topic of discussion, just like I know when people meet or see me for the first time a little red button of curiosity goes off in their heads. To me, that's perfectly reasonable and fair. Fielding questions from strangers about what’s “wrong” with me is not my favorite thing in the world, but it's something I've learned how to handle. My facial difference is not all of who I am, but it’s certainly a part of it and my experience living with it is the basis for a lot of why I am the way I am. I’m not afraid to be seen and I’m not ashamed, because I have no reason to be. It should be possible to be beautiful because of your differences, not in spite of them.

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Image Description: Dyana today. The photo is in black and white. Dyana is wearing a black dress and is standing in front of a fence with tree bushes around her. Photo credit: Maegan Gindi.

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Like a lot of people I know, I have a bad habit of scrolling through Instagram and comparing myself to other women, including my own best friends on my feed and wondering why I can’t look like them. It would be nice to be “different” or “weird” in a way that attracts positive attention instead of the negative kind. It would be nice to not constantly feel like I’m participating in a competition where the playing field is not level. That will probably never be my life and while I don’t like to admit it because I fancy myself Wonder Woman, sometimes I wish I were someone else. There are days when I want to give up but then I remind myself I‘m a fighter and strong as hell, and I keep trying new things and putting myself out into a world that tells me I don’t belong.

Dyslexia Didn't Hold Gavin Newsom Down

Did you know that, contrary to what many believe, dyslexia and many other learning disabilities do not affect intelligence? Rather, learning disabilities are generally processing disorders which occur in the brain. In the case of dyslexia, this means that reading fluency is compromised.

Not only is dyslexia an invisible disorder, but it also carries a lot of stigma. Children with dyslexia are often treated as if they are “lazy” or “defiant” in school, when they may just be expressing frustration with their difficulty reading in various ways. Thankfully, attitudes about dyslexia are starting to change and many people with dyslexia have achieved amazing things. One such person is Gavin Newsom, the current Governor of California.

Newsom sits down to talk about his experience with dyslexia with Cheryl Jennings.

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You can read more about Newsom’s journey with dyslexia here: How I found Strength in My Dyslexia Diagnosis

This May Sound Strange, But I'm Grateful That I Stutter

When I was a kid, I wanted nothing more than to run away from my existence. The simple act of conversing was filled with so much anxiety that I often chose to stay silent because it was just easier and less embarrassing.When I used to call my friends on the phone, I recorded myself onto a tape recorder (remember those? 😊 ) so I didn’t have to actually speak when asking my friends’ parents to talk to my friends.

When I was in high school, I decided that a life of shyness, pain, and anxiety wasn’t a life I wanted to lead anymore. I didn’t want to run away from my fears. Instead, I decided to push straight into them and see what happened.

Recently, I read a Facebook post that was honest and vulnerable about stuttering, and it inspired me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not shy to talk about my stutter, and I definitely don’t run away from it anymore, but I also don’t really talk about either. I just assume you either take me for who I am, or you don’t, and I feel no need to discuss it further.

However, it’s always good to take a step back and reflect on the things you are grateful for.  Doing so makes me realize that I am grateful that I stutter.

It may sound strange to say because most people who I know in similar situations would completely disagree with me. It's certainly true that if I didn’t stutter, I would be a very different person,  but I think that’s kinda the point. I like who I am and a large part of that is because I struggle so much when I speak. Allow me to explain.

HERE ARE SIX REASONS WHY I AM GRATEFUL FOR MY STUTTER:

1. I experience an ever-renewing feeling of accomplishment.

Stuttering is a daily struggle, whether I like it or not. Every day is a new decision to not let it get the better of me. It’s a battle I constantly choose to win. That feeling of accomplishment is contagious and rolls over into all your my decisions and actions — mundane or serious. Knowing that you’ve already won battles today makes it not a big deal to accomplish more. It's strengthening and empowering.

2. I am sensitive to others.

Knowing what it feels like to be on the receiving end allows me to appreciate and think about others’ struggles and successes more than I might if I didn't stutter. I am more in tune to understanding people, and I take the time to make sure I understand  what they want and how they feel.

It's that interest in people that enables me to take the time to really think about what people want and need. This skill goes beyond the personal; it is very helpful in my professional career as an educator and as a marketer.

When creating a marketing strategy, knowing your audience is crucial. Being able to really know what they want and how to deliver it in a way that matters is what makes a campaign successful.

I might not be so good at that if I wasn't as sensitive, and I might not be as sensitive if I didn't stutter.

 

3. I never feel that old.

This one is hard to explain — but I’ll try. Carrying something with you from childhood kind of keeps you in that state of mind. In certain regards I have left that part of life behind me and forged forward, but there is still a part of the past that I hold on to. It's the part that knows I’m not perfect, the part that knows I struggle, and the part that knows what it’s like to feel pain, frustration, and humiliation. These are parts I don’t want to let go of. These are the parts that propel me forward into always challenging myself and to appreciating others.

When you hold onto parts of your childhood, something about it keeps you in that mindset. So for me, I still always feel like my younger self, though I have accomplished and am proud of so much about my adult life.

Also, because of my stutter, there is still a part of me that feels like "don’t take yourself too seriously, focus on what’s important and don’t get caught up in stupid stresses". One of my favorite quotes is: "Only focusing on things that matter, and not 'adult stupidities' keeps you feeling young at heart and in action."

4. I am patient.

They say “Patience is a virtue” — and it definitely is. I cultivate patience for myself and patience towards others every day. Patience can often be swapped for strength. It’s not easy to wait for something. It’s not easy to be slow to anger or slow to get frustrated. My life experiences have taught me patience, and that has been a great gift.

5. I allow myself to be inspired by others.

When you have firsthand appreciation of what it’s like to struggle and succeed, it easily puts you in to the shoes of others. You realize and appreciate that the road is not always easy and when things are hard, people want you to know. By the same turn, when things are good, people want to share with you. Community and networks are grown when people appreciate and respect one another. The world works because we are not all the same person.

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Image Description: Sign reading "There is Always Something to be Grateful For." 

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